While Christmas is a joyful time for many, it can also bring feelings of loneliness, stress, and frustration for others
If you’re feeling overwhelmed or sad at this time of year, it can be easy to think that you’re the only one who feels this way as you scroll past picture-perfect festive get-togethers and experiences on social media.
The truth is, December can be an incredibly tough month for so many people and Christmas Day, in particular, can be source of dread.
It’s so important to be kind to yourself and know that there’s nothing wrong with how you’re feeling and there is someone you can talk to, even if you feel like you don’t want to share your thoughts with family or friends.
Last Christmas Day alone, Pieta’s 24/7 Crisis Helpline received 70 calls and 142 texts from those with suicidal thoughts. Based on data from previous years, and an increase in calls during 2024, these numbers are expected to rise for Christmas 2024, with hundreds more likely to reach out for help during the Christmas period.
Pieta’s National Services Manager and psychotherapist, Verona Farrell, said: “Christmas is a time when many feel the pressure to be everything to everyone, but it’s crucial to remember that taking care of your own mental and emotional wellbeing is just as important. By recognising your own needs and allowing yourself moments of rest and self-care, you can better support those around you and truly enjoy the season. It’s okay to take a step back, say no when you need to, and prioritise your own health.”
Be honest about money
Christmas can be expensive, even more so right now with the ongoing cost-of-living crisis. But it’s okay to tell your family and friends what you can afford. Suggest alternatives like Secret Santa or spending time together instead of exchanging gifts. Focus on making meaningful memories rather than stressing over your budget.
Make space for grief
If you’ve lost someone this year, Christmas can be especially tough. It’s normal to feel a range of emotions, from sadness to anger. Take time to reflect, start a new tradition in their memory, or share stories about them.
Take time for yourself
The busy Christmas season can leave you feeling drained. It’s okay to say no to social events and carve out some time for rest. Whether it’s staying in to watch a favourite movie, or enjoying a quiet moment, looking after yourself is important.
Keep hosting simple
If you’re hosting Christmas, it doesn’t have to be perfect. Ask guests to bring a dish, try a simpler meal, or even head to a restaurant to save time and money.
Tackle loneliness
Spending Christmas alone can be tough, but there are ways to make it easier. Plan your day around things you enjoy, like a walk, a favourite meal, or a chat with friends. If you’re feeling isolated, think about joining a community event or reaching out to someone you trust. You don’t have to face it alone.
Get support if you need it
If you’re struggling this Christmas, it’s okay to ask for help. Pieta’s Crisis Helpline is available 24/7, even on Christmas day, with our team of qualified therapists and councillors offering round-the-clock support if you are thinking of self-harming, suicide, or have lost someone to suicide. Call 1800 247 247, or text ‘HELP’ to 51444.
To support the Christmas campaign, Louise Cooney, a long-time Pieta supporter, social media influencer and entrepreneur, is hosting an online Christmas raffle to raise critical funds for the charity. Participants will have the chance to win incredible prizes – €1,000 One4All vouchers – while also contributing to a cause that helps save lives. Tickets can be purchased through Louise’s iDonate page, with prices starting at just €5. The raffle will be live throughout December, in the lead up to Christmas, and all proceeds will go directly to supporting Pieta’s vital services.
Louise explains her motivation to get involved: “It’s heartbreaking to think that so many people feel alone at Christmas. By knowing Pieta is there 24/7, we can all play a role in supporting someone who needs help. Hosting this raffle is my way of making a difference and encouraging others to do the same. I know first-hand the pain that losing a family member to suicide can bring and thank Pieta for all its support to Irish families.”
